I wonder how you all actually handle hypocritical friends..

I'm seriously @ a loss when it comes to handling such people...

Thing is, I've got this friend, who is getting hitched this Saturday, & am not being invited - when the rest of my friends were invited to the wedding...

Not that I mind not being invited, (maybe because I'm pregnant & she might be pantang about the 喜冲喜 thingy) but I mind being lied to!

We had a group Xmas meetup last month, & she was showing us her pre wedding shots... So, I was asking her about the details about her wedding, but she avoided my questions by simply ignoring me...

So, i turned to ask the lady sitting beside me, lets name her S (since they're as close as sisters) only to be interrupted by the BTB herself that she did not invite S.. With that, I left it as it is, & continued on the gift exchange...

Then, yesterday, just yesterday, I watsapp S to ask if she could help me pass the BTB a red packet on my behalf, if she's by any chance meeting the BTB...

Her (referring to S) reply shocked & sadden me!

Below is our conversation:

Me: Hihi, are you by any chance seeing Rena these few days? If yes, can you help me pass her an angpow? I'll transfer the $$$ to you...

S: Aren't you going??

Me: (stumped) Was not being invited... Hehehe~~

S: Then why u still want to pass her angpow?? You pass her during our next meetup la...

Me: I don't know when we will meet again & I'm scared I'll forget.. Even if I'm not invited, I'll still want to bless her marriage ma.. Plus I guess the next time we meet is Xmas 2011 already..

S: Okok.. As you wish.. How much you giving & my a/c number is xxx-xxxxx-x.... & what do you want me to write on the angpow?

Me: Ok! Help me write bla bla bla~~~ (my wishes to the couple, which I won't be writing here) I will watsapp u once the transfer is done..

The rest is history....

What affected me like I've mentioned, its not the fact that I wasn't invited, but the fact that the BTB had to lie to me!

Yes, we may have drifted apart after 5 years of not meeting... But that doesn't mean she had to lie to me right??

Maybe, I said maybe, she wanted to 'get back' to me for not inviting her to mine last year...

Whatever it may be, I still feel deeply hurt by her lies!

We used to be so close - we met when we were promoters for a particular event, & our friendship blossomed within days!

We would meet up for breakfast every single day during the 2-week event, & go for supper after work! In short, the group of friends were inseparable!

But why did this pure & innocent lady (thats my first impression of her) became such?? I cannot comprehend...

Was she faking her friendship to me back then?? I'm not sure.... :(

Nonetheless, I still wish her the best in her wedding & whatever she may do in time to come... I hope she realise soon enough that I still treat her as a buddy despite the years of not meeting, & despite the fact that she lied to me... :) :) :)

I wouldn't have been so affected, if she is just a normal hi-bye friend... Fact is, she's not... really not.......